Resent times are leading more and more to the opinion people really don't really care..
Over the past few months I have seen a side of my friends and people in general which I am finding disturbing.....
When I and my friends were not working, we would help each other with odd jobs, talk, discuss issues of importance the climate, education, religion etc. No subject was left out.
As my friends have returned to the work force and the money started to roll in, I am seeing a side of them and friends of theirs which is sad.
My friend would come over for coffee, whine and complain about her partner and how lazy, thoughtless and generally unmotivated he was.... he liked not working, spending time with her and the children and the freedom to take his time, he would help out around town and always the first to a lend hand when need arose. She eventually nagged and bullied him and he is working again, which is a good thing, however she is still whinging and complaining about his lack of anything she can think off. So the other week I was over having coffee, feeling very down, business being slow was taking its toll on the mind, stress and worry and all things that go with it... so out of character I thought my turn to unload some of anxiety and try and feel better, get a little helpful advice etc....
This so called friend sat listened and said 'well if it is a loan you want I can lend it,', that is not what I was talking about, paying the bills was not the issue just feeling stressed and strung out...business is slow and clients not paying on time is...
then she says: "I am thinking of leaving my part-time job to spend time at home it is not as if we need money...." Hmmmm I am thinking so what part of this conversation did I miss, she goes on, "come inside and have a look at what I just bought a new sewing maching, coffee maker, and all this wonderful material to make curtains for the house" soon after with the temper building and the indignation rising we left....before I said something I shouldn't.
A few days later we were visiting again helping with a job, things had settled down and I had regained my normal temperment, she starts going on about her hubby spending money ...
"he went shopping and bought all this stuff, .... I am so cross with him...... he knows we are trying to save .......do you like the new tv table it was special..."
hmmmmm once again the little voice is banging in my head time to go time to leave, but the job wasn't finished and my partner was still helping her hubby, so I let the comments wash over me.....
about 15 minutes later.....
Over the past few months I have seen a side of my friends and people in general which I am finding disturbing.....
When I and my friends were not working, we would help each other with odd jobs, talk, discuss issues of importance the climate, education, religion etc. No subject was left out.
As my friends have returned to the work force and the money started to roll in, I am seeing a side of them and friends of theirs which is sad.
My friend would come over for coffee, whine and complain about her partner and how lazy, thoughtless and generally unmotivated he was.... he liked not working, spending time with her and the children and the freedom to take his time, he would help out around town and always the first to a lend hand when need arose. She eventually nagged and bullied him and he is working again, which is a good thing, however she is still whinging and complaining about his lack of anything she can think off. So the other week I was over having coffee, feeling very down, business being slow was taking its toll on the mind, stress and worry and all things that go with it... so out of character I thought my turn to unload some of anxiety and try and feel better, get a little helpful advice etc....
This so called friend sat listened and said 'well if it is a loan you want I can lend it,', that is not what I was talking about, paying the bills was not the issue just feeling stressed and strung out...business is slow and clients not paying on time is...
then she says: "I am thinking of leaving my part-time job to spend time at home it is not as if we need money...." Hmmmm I am thinking so what part of this conversation did I miss, she goes on, "come inside and have a look at what I just bought a new sewing maching, coffee maker, and all this wonderful material to make curtains for the house" soon after with the temper building and the indignation rising we left....before I said something I shouldn't.
A few days later we were visiting again helping with a job, things had settled down and I had regained my normal temperment, she starts going on about her hubby spending money ...
"he went shopping and bought all this stuff, .... I am so cross with him...... he knows we are trying to save .......do you like the new tv table it was special..."
hmmmmm once again the little voice is banging in my head time to go time to leave, but the job wasn't finished and my partner was still helping her hubby, so I let the comments wash over me.....
about 15 minutes later.....
friends of theirs arrived to say Hi! What followed was a revelation to all of us..
The Friends arrive and are invited in for coffee, we were not,
they chatted for about 20 minutes, we were not introduced, nor we were not included in the conversation, in fact we were ignored totally and left outside,
their youngest child stopped playing with our child and went to see them and play with their kids and also ignored....
After about 25 minutes they were leaving, we heard them ask do you need a hand, to which the reply was oh no they can take care of it, but thanks for asking.... my partner just looked at me... they left....
I looked at my watch with blood boiling at being treated as hired help, servants even and told them we had to go it was getting late and I things to do.... they would have to finish themselves and then she proceded to get he purse and pay us for what had been a favour...... We told her it was required or wanted and we were leaving...
All the conversation with my friends seem to be about, how much money they can spend, how annoying each other are, and what useless thing they are planning to buy next, look at how wonderful we are....
They seem so self obsurbed and thoughtless in all respects.... is this the way the world is going?
To have a meaningful conversation is just chore their views have on everything subject become so materialistic and shallow it is hard to comprehend.
These days I keep to myself and really do not have the time or energy to waste on people like these, but it appears to be everywhere.
So tell me have you found the same experience in people you know, is the world changing or am I alone in thinking the world of Man has become a sad place.
The Friends arrive and are invited in for coffee, we were not,
they chatted for about 20 minutes, we were not introduced, nor we were not included in the conversation, in fact we were ignored totally and left outside,
their youngest child stopped playing with our child and went to see them and play with their kids and also ignored....
After about 25 minutes they were leaving, we heard them ask do you need a hand, to which the reply was oh no they can take care of it, but thanks for asking.... my partner just looked at me... they left....
I looked at my watch with blood boiling at being treated as hired help, servants even and told them we had to go it was getting late and I things to do.... they would have to finish themselves and then she proceded to get he purse and pay us for what had been a favour...... We told her it was required or wanted and we were leaving...
All the conversation with my friends seem to be about, how much money they can spend, how annoying each other are, and what useless thing they are planning to buy next, look at how wonderful we are....
They seem so self obsurbed and thoughtless in all respects.... is this the way the world is going?
To have a meaningful conversation is just chore their views have on everything subject become so materialistic and shallow it is hard to comprehend.
These days I keep to myself and really do not have the time or energy to waste on people like these, but it appears to be everywhere.
So tell me have you found the same experience in people you know, is the world changing or am I alone in thinking the world of Man has become a sad place.
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Wow. I thought that kind of callous asshole was limited to America.
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